tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-683700514997462882.post8296936229895761560..comments2023-11-03T04:45:55.068-06:00Comments on Samantha's Mom- Life with love, and loss and me: The other sideHeatherShttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10703395031550941003noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-683700514997462882.post-15852577940793877302010-01-08T08:45:02.965-07:002010-01-08T08:45:02.965-07:00I remember saying once, "I will never own a m...I remember saying once, "I will never own a minivan. Now I drive a white Honda Odyssey. I gotta say, it's an awesome car. 1999 and has over 200,000 miles, but it still goes strong (no seat warmers or DVD player, though, and the cup holder is way too small). We got the van because I was sick and tired of loading and unloading Rhia's wheelchair and walker from the trunk of my sedan. Now I can put both devices in the car at the same time and I don't have to break either down. <br /><br />It is not my dream car; it is a necessity. I dream of a Mini coupe with no room for a wheelchair, a car that I can drive just for me. The minivan exemplifies my life, so I understand your hesitation about a van and a wheelchair. <br /><br />Queen Teen's first wheelchair was a light, compact, quasi-stroller in bright purple. Simple to use and very light. You might be surprised by the options available.<br /><br />But yeah, it still sucks. Minivans and wheelchairs. Bums me out, too.Renahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15911608453762091207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-683700514997462882.post-47306876607824548792010-01-07T20:36:32.377-07:002010-01-07T20:36:32.377-07:00Minivans are pretty nice. I kind of forget I have...Minivans are pretty nice. I kind of forget I have mine anymore. And it still feels too small for our family!<br /><br />I know what you mean, sometimes I feel like I make people feel like they can't do anything right. See, the problem is that it's me. I'm emotional about a lot of stuff. Catch me on a good day, and I'll open up about things and give people the "permission" they need to talk about my child. Other days, I might just walk away to my car and cry. Sometimes I cry in front of people. And it's not their fault, it just triggered something, that's all. <br /><br />But you know what is always an appropriate thing to say? "what a pretty little girl" or "what nice eyes he has!" or "what's her name?" - like all other kids. Because kids cue from their parents. The parent treats the child like any other child and the kids will too. That's not an "effort-taking" learning moment, that's just a human thing.ferfischerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00184449747019920745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-683700514997462882.post-36921894643254860442010-01-07T10:45:16.122-07:002010-01-07T10:45:16.122-07:00I'll speak to something that can be done...how...I'll speak to something that can be done...how about the mother taking a moment to say, IT'S OK TO BE DIFFERENT.<br />I get so tired of the world talking about our children being the 'touchstone to humanity' but living their life like it's too much hassel to take a moment to try and be a better human.,,,Better yet, teach their children to be better humans!<br />"Try not to be a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value."--A Einstein<br />In America we often forget that life is more than a consumption high.<br />Kuddos Heather, hang in there, it might be a messy life but it's our life.<br />XO'sAmanda Jakshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882969274259097727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-683700514997462882.post-63022618677537370642010-01-07T05:39:30.556-07:002010-01-07T05:39:30.556-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com